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Hello! I'm not real sure what to say, but I'm a 34 year old married mom of 3 kids all under the age of 8 and I have been on meds for various things since I was 18 years old. Most recently, the diagnosis changed to ADD w/ depression and anxiety.
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Welcome to the forums.
I don't do the chat room thing, so hope that you will post some of your background info, so we can get the chance to know you better.
I was very ill when my children we quite young. It can be so difficult trying to cope with a depression on your own, let alone when you have three little ones that depend on you so much for their daily care. You have a lot of stuff on your plate.
My son had a very tough struggle with ADD. When he was finally put on Ritalin, his best friend told him that she didn't like him being like a zombie, and that if he didn't stop it right away that she wouldn't be his friend any longer.
Needless to say he stopped the Ritalin, and after a great stuggle for 11 years, dropped out of school when he was in grade 10. It was truly a battle for all of us.
The only reason that I am telling you this story is that he is finally get some psychiatric help, and that seems to be turning the corner for him.
Hope that you are able to get the same kind of support in your life.
We are here to listen too. Often the best "experts" are those that have been in the same difficult situations, themselves.
I don't do the chat room thing, so hope that you will post some of your background info, so we can get the chance to know you better.
I was very ill when my children we quite young. It can be so difficult trying to cope with a depression on your own, let alone when you have three little ones that depend on you so much for their daily care. You have a lot of stuff on your plate.
My son had a very tough struggle with ADD. When he was finally put on Ritalin, his best friend told him that she didn't like him being like a zombie, and that if he didn't stop it right away that she wouldn't be his friend any longer.
Needless to say he stopped the Ritalin, and after a great stuggle for 11 years, dropped out of school when he was in grade 10. It was truly a battle for all of us.
The only reason that I am telling you this story is that he is finally get some psychiatric help, and that seems to be turning the corner for him.
Hope that you are able to get the same kind of support in your life.
We are here to listen too. Often the best "experts" are those that have been in the same difficult situations, themselves.
Hi Monty!
Thank you very much for your post. I struggle everyday with my children and with trying to get myself "straightened out" if you know what I mean. My oldest son, who is almost 8, has OCD and ADD and we struggle with that. My youngest son, who is almost 5, had some behavioral issues and sensory issues that we are trying to get help with through the school system. Our school district is very very helpful and they have been wonderful in trying to help me get the services I need for him.
As for myself, I was diagnosed bipolar II, was diagnosed depressed, was diagnosed all kinds of things over the years. I feel like I have finally found a dr. who will take the time to listen to me and not just slap a prescription in my hands. It's not perfect, but I have also gotten back into therapy and that is helping a great deal as well.
My husband is supportive, but sometimes doesn't truly understand how I feel. He works a lot 2nd shift and he doesn't see the kids much during the week like I do. We've had a rough time lately because he injured his ankle and that has caused him to have to postponed being commissioned as a LT in the Army. It's a goal we have worked towards for many years now and it's heartbreaking for him.
Anyway, that just a little blurb on us. I thank you guys in welcoming me and making me feel at home here. It's nice to know I'm not alone.
Thank you very much for your post. I struggle everyday with my children and with trying to get myself "straightened out" if you know what I mean. My oldest son, who is almost 8, has OCD and ADD and we struggle with that. My youngest son, who is almost 5, had some behavioral issues and sensory issues that we are trying to get help with through the school system. Our school district is very very helpful and they have been wonderful in trying to help me get the services I need for him.
As for myself, I was diagnosed bipolar II, was diagnosed depressed, was diagnosed all kinds of things over the years. I feel like I have finally found a dr. who will take the time to listen to me and not just slap a prescription in my hands. It's not perfect, but I have also gotten back into therapy and that is helping a great deal as well.
My husband is supportive, but sometimes doesn't truly understand how I feel. He works a lot 2nd shift and he doesn't see the kids much during the week like I do. We've had a rough time lately because he injured his ankle and that has caused him to have to postponed being commissioned as a LT in the Army. It's a goal we have worked towards for many years now and it's heartbreaking for him.
Anyway, that just a little blurb on us. I thank you guys in welcoming me and making me feel at home here. It's nice to know I'm not alone.
welcome home
hi there mrsrummel welcome home ,come on in the companys wonderful .let yourself go in here ,we are all friends .with differant issues ,sometimes its dark sometimes its light sometimes we dont know were we are ,but we all know were our friends are ,so any time you feel you need us reach out and we will catch your fall ,,,,,xn728
Mrs. honey,
You don't know it yet, but you've walked into a house full of care and support. And the care and support gets better and fuller every time you post. I am sort of new, a few weeks- xn and I showed up close to the same time and have gotten to be good friends with each other and a bunch of the people here. Monty is one of the best to talk to - she's been there - depression, therapy, meds, kids, husband problems, the whole nine yards. She writes really well too. Xn is amazingly caring. So is aim or Amy, her real name. She's always there. Georgiapeach is, after my husband read on of her posts to me right at the start, a real peach! I'm sure she gets that all the time, but hey, she's really nice.
My situation is pretty different, I'm not going to go into it here, I have to answer some other posts in different catagories - one of the things that makes me unique is that I frequently blow up when I lose a long and very thoughtful letter. They all talk me down, give me hugs, and poor babies, and make me feel all better. If they can put up with me, just think what they can do for you!
We all write in most of the catagories, so stop in and visit every one where you see us.
WELCOME!
a5
You don't know it yet, but you've walked into a house full of care and support. And the care and support gets better and fuller every time you post. I am sort of new, a few weeks- xn and I showed up close to the same time and have gotten to be good friends with each other and a bunch of the people here. Monty is one of the best to talk to - she's been there - depression, therapy, meds, kids, husband problems, the whole nine yards. She writes really well too. Xn is amazingly caring. So is aim or Amy, her real name. She's always there. Georgiapeach is, after my husband read on of her posts to me right at the start, a real peach! I'm sure she gets that all the time, but hey, she's really nice.
My situation is pretty different, I'm not going to go into it here, I have to answer some other posts in different catagories - one of the things that makes me unique is that I frequently blow up when I lose a long and very thoughtful letter. They all talk me down, give me hugs, and poor babies, and make me feel all better. If they can put up with me, just think what they can do for you!
We all write in most of the catagories, so stop in and visit every one where you see us.
WELCOME!
a5
Glad that you feel welcome here. It is a great bunch of people, who whether they know it or not, have helped me deal with a lot of difficult situations that have arisen in my life lately. Just to be able to go into my email, and find that there are messages from the forum there, really make my day.
I am glad that your children are getting support from your school system. My children, are now having children of their own now, so when my son was in school, they really hadn't gotten too much into the ADD stuff. Plus we lived in a rural school district. For the most part there were only enough students to have two classrooms, for each grade.
It is great when I go to my doctor's office (of which I often visit, for tune-ups) and see on the wall the myths associated with those that suffer from ADD.
The one I had a continuing battle with (now more than 15 years ago) was the need for Ritalin all during the week. They just wanted to give it to him on during the week, that made our weekends, our own little hell on earth. Now they emphasize the importance of them having their dosage, every day, otherwise they can suffer socially from not being on an even keel with the rest of their classmates.
Like I said in my last post he is doing better now. It took him to be in his late 20's to finally get the help that he needs. I am so glad to hear stories of little ones getting the help that they need, from the start. Makes their lives (and those of their parents) so much easier.
My fingers seem to be typing too fast tonight so I will end this missive off with a question.
Did you hear the cheer that goes up everytime someone from the forum reads your message telling us that you had a good day?
I am glad that your children are getting support from your school system. My children, are now having children of their own now, so when my son was in school, they really hadn't gotten too much into the ADD stuff. Plus we lived in a rural school district. For the most part there were only enough students to have two classrooms, for each grade.
It is great when I go to my doctor's office (of which I often visit, for tune-ups) and see on the wall the myths associated with those that suffer from ADD.
The one I had a continuing battle with (now more than 15 years ago) was the need for Ritalin all during the week. They just wanted to give it to him on during the week, that made our weekends, our own little hell on earth. Now they emphasize the importance of them having their dosage, every day, otherwise they can suffer socially from not being on an even keel with the rest of their classmates.
Like I said in my last post he is doing better now. It took him to be in his late 20's to finally get the help that he needs. I am so glad to hear stories of little ones getting the help that they need, from the start. Makes their lives (and those of their parents) so much easier.
My fingers seem to be typing too fast tonight so I will end this missive off with a question.
Did you hear the cheer that goes up everytime someone from the forum reads your message telling us that you had a good day?
Hiya, mrsrummel - another welcome coming your way from me!!
It's unfortuante that you have only just been diagnosed with ADD and you are an adult. I know that ADD in adulthood hits much differently than in childhood... how are you coping with it? It must be so difficult with three young children, so be proud of yourself for hanging in there and getting help to deal with all of it.
I too suffer from anxiety - so I totally get that! Some of the nicest people in the world around here, mrsrummel, so glad you joined up!
It's unfortuante that you have only just been diagnosed with ADD and you are an adult. I know that ADD in adulthood hits much differently than in childhood... how are you coping with it? It must be so difficult with three young children, so be proud of yourself for hanging in there and getting help to deal with all of it.
I too suffer from anxiety - so I totally get that! Some of the nicest people in the world around here, mrsrummel, so glad you joined up!
Haven't read anything from you in a bit. I imagine that having three little ones must keep you on the go.
It wasn't until my son was diagnosed as having ADD that his dad realized that he had it all of his life. For him it was like finding the puzzle piece that put the whole thing together. It explained a lot of things that had happened in his life. A very intelliegent man, but just didn't fit. I am so grateful that, even though my son is in his late 20's, he is finally getting help with the ADD and also a possible bipolar diagnosis. The dual diagnosis would explain a lot of things that have gone on in his life.
No matter what they find though, I know that he is a stellar human being, with a heart of gold. I want so much for him to have a good life. People have taken advantage of his illness for too many years.
In my posts today I seem to be going off topic easily.
You don't say how long you have had the bipolar diagnosis, or the severity of it.
It was the same for me, that they took a long time to finally give the depression a name. Sometimes though I think that pdocs give the diagnosis of the disease of the month. I'm glad that you have a pdoc that doesn't just write you a script, pat you on the head and then send you on your way.
It is unfortunate that your husband is such a busy man. I know that mine preferred not to know what was going on.
Whatever the reason you know that whenever you post, they will be read by people who care, and just want the best for you. Our advice need not always be taken. But remember it is done with fondness
It wasn't until my son was diagnosed as having ADD that his dad realized that he had it all of his life. For him it was like finding the puzzle piece that put the whole thing together. It explained a lot of things that had happened in his life. A very intelliegent man, but just didn't fit. I am so grateful that, even though my son is in his late 20's, he is finally getting help with the ADD and also a possible bipolar diagnosis. The dual diagnosis would explain a lot of things that have gone on in his life.
No matter what they find though, I know that he is a stellar human being, with a heart of gold. I want so much for him to have a good life. People have taken advantage of his illness for too many years.
In my posts today I seem to be going off topic easily.
You don't say how long you have had the bipolar diagnosis, or the severity of it.
It was the same for me, that they took a long time to finally give the depression a name. Sometimes though I think that pdocs give the diagnosis of the disease of the month. I'm glad that you have a pdoc that doesn't just write you a script, pat you on the head and then send you on your way.
It is unfortunate that your husband is such a busy man. I know that mine preferred not to know what was going on.
Whatever the reason you know that whenever you post, they will be read by people who care, and just want the best for you. Our advice need not always be taken. But remember it is done with fondness
Monty -
Thanks for the kind words. This is the first time I've hopped on the forums in a while. I try to check out the chat everynight, but that doesn't happen all the time either.
As for my diagnosis, I had a breakdown in 03 and was taken to the psych unit for 3-4 days. I don't remember too much about it. I then did a 30 day outpatient hospital program that was 8-3 everyday. That's where the bipolar II diagnosis came in and the myriad of meds that I have been on. Over the years I've been on varying combo's of mood stabilizers, antidepressents and benzo's. When I think back, there was a time when I was going back into talk therapy and the therapist did tell me that I had many ADD symptoms, but I wrote her off and didn't pursue it.
Flash forward to a few months ago. I'm off all meds due to an insurance change and my reluctance to see a new dr. and life is literally HELL. I'm close to suicidal and I'm mean and horrible to my husband and children. After getting my son diagnosed and having to fiddle with his ADD meds and then having to switch dr.'s due to the insurance, I read Driven to Distraction as directed by my son's dr.
The book could've been a script for my life. I made an appt with the same dr. my son sees and he put me on ADD meds and I am doing better. My life has been kinda crazy lately, so I had him lower my dosage because my panic attacks increased a butt-load. Now, I'm doing much better and I am able to focus to finish a task.
My husband still notices the cycling and we are keeping watch of it - though with the bipolar, I've always felt much more depression and never really had any true mania associated with it.
Thanks for being so sweet. I'm hoping to post more now that my charity event is over - I was co-chair for a pretty big event this past saturday. The kids are finishing up school this week and the switch over to summer schedules is happening, so that can make me a bit frazzled, too - I don't do well with change
Thanks for the kind words. This is the first time I've hopped on the forums in a while. I try to check out the chat everynight, but that doesn't happen all the time either.
As for my diagnosis, I had a breakdown in 03 and was taken to the psych unit for 3-4 days. I don't remember too much about it. I then did a 30 day outpatient hospital program that was 8-3 everyday. That's where the bipolar II diagnosis came in and the myriad of meds that I have been on. Over the years I've been on varying combo's of mood stabilizers, antidepressents and benzo's. When I think back, there was a time when I was going back into talk therapy and the therapist did tell me that I had many ADD symptoms, but I wrote her off and didn't pursue it.
Flash forward to a few months ago. I'm off all meds due to an insurance change and my reluctance to see a new dr. and life is literally HELL. I'm close to suicidal and I'm mean and horrible to my husband and children. After getting my son diagnosed and having to fiddle with his ADD meds and then having to switch dr.'s due to the insurance, I read Driven to Distraction as directed by my son's dr.
The book could've been a script for my life. I made an appt with the same dr. my son sees and he put me on ADD meds and I am doing better. My life has been kinda crazy lately, so I had him lower my dosage because my panic attacks increased a butt-load. Now, I'm doing much better and I am able to focus to finish a task.
My husband still notices the cycling and we are keeping watch of it - though with the bipolar, I've always felt much more depression and never really had any true mania associated with it.
Thanks for being so sweet. I'm hoping to post more now that my charity event is over - I was co-chair for a pretty big event this past saturday. The kids are finishing up school this week and the switch over to summer schedules is happening, so that can make me a bit frazzled, too - I don't do well with change
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