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Hi guys,

This is my first time on this chat, but I need to talk to someone. Lately, I've been feel generally down and sad. I guess its because of stress and exams coming up. But my problem is that I keep on taking it out on my boyfriend; someone who has done only good to me. But what I've found is that I keep nit-picking at all the little things and starting fights.

What should I do?
-Minty

hi there minty0,
this is a girls thing really ,but id just like to welcome you to the forums
can you talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel pherhaps ,anyway you will make lots of friends on here and replys will soon appear ,it been quiet on the forum just lately ,be patient
xn728

hiya minty,welcome to the website! i think it's easier to take things out on the people we love most in a weird way cos we're so comfortable with them and we know they'll put up with it! explain that you're really stressed at the moment but try not to use him as too much of a punchbag. take some time out for yourself to do whatever helps you unwind - read,have a nice bath,exercise,watch a funny film and make sure you eat and sleep well.

finally,i remember a card i was sent when i was preparing for exams:

Exams and tests and things like that are really rather rotten
I'd rather fall in camel poo or eat my best friend's bottom

wise words...... Lisa xx

minty0 wrote:Hi guys,

This is my first time on this chat, but I need to talk to someone. Lately, I've been feel generally down and sad. I guess its because of stress and exams coming up. But my problem is that I keep on taking it out on my boyfriend; someone who has done only good to me. But what I've found is that I keep nit-picking at all the little things and starting fights.

What should I do?
-Minty

My boyfriend always nit-picks at little petty things and starts small arguments with me.. he is the one that suffers from depression..

how have you handled your situation?

Hi Minty, welcome. I agree with lisalou that sometimes its easier for us to take it out on the ones we love. May not make it right, but it happens. And we just have to work through it the best we can, and try to keep our partner informed on whats going on, and how we are feeling. And if you sense you are too irritated to continue a conversation or respond how you might regret, try walking away and caling down, and thinking things out. Please know you aren't alone.

hollyann