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Hello everyone..

I'm feeling incredibly isolated and lonely right now, despite being surrounded by people. I lost my father when I was a teenager, and I miss him deeply. Since then, so many things have happened in my life that have left me feeling all alone.

I used to have friends, but over time, we’ve all changed and grown apart. Now, I have no close friends. Everyone is busy with their own lives, and I understand that, but it doesn’t make it any easier..I really want to have friends in my life again, someone who understands me and can be there for me.. I know we all want it and I am not special.

I've always struggled with social anxiety, even as a child. This makes it very difficult for me to reach out and talk to people, even though I desperately want to. I’m naturally shy and find it hard to express my feelings to others. The few friends I did make are now too busy to keep in touch, and I feel more isolated than ever...

I know that ultimately, we are responsible for our own happiness, but I can’t help but feel the need for connection and support... I can handle many things on my own, my family , my responsibilities but I wish I had a friend who could be there for me, someone to talk to and share my feelings with.


Rn, therapy isn’t an option for me, so I’m reaching out here in the hopes of finding some support and understanding. If anyone is willing to talk or share advice, I would really appreciate it... Thanks.

Hi there

I'm sorry for the loss of your father. Losing a parent definitely leaves a void regardless of age. I personally lost my mom 5.5yrs ago and still miss her dearly.

As we grow and change it seems inevitably that our friendships drift apart, even sometimes when we make an effort to keep those friendships. Losing friends is also painful and you're right it's understandable but still feels like an emptiness. That just exasperates the lonliness feeling.

Most of us long for connection and to feel supported. I think its just in our nature to seek out a support system. There's nothing wrong with seeking out support for yourself. I really hope you find someone that'll be your friend.

I'm not sure if you're aware of this, but we also have a worldwide 24/7 365 days a year chatroom available. There's always somebody in there to talk with. We have a lot of really good people that are in similar situations as you. I'd suggest giving that a try and seeing if you can chat with someone, in real time, to build a friendship to combat the lonlieness.

Chatroom link:
https://depression-understood.org/depre ... rt-online/

Personally, I dont have any irl friends any longer for the same reasons you mentioned. We just grew and changed and the changes no longer lined up with who we were. So we drifted apart. The chatroom helps me to get the support I need from people who understand what I'm talking about. Helps me to not feel so alone in this fight of life. I don't really have any other advice than this because it's what I do Here is also a good place to get support. I also just want to say good job on reaching out and trying to find what you're looking for.