For those of you who have kids, why did you?
Me, when I started to be depressed at around 16, I swore I would never have kids. I thought that if my kid suffered from depression, like me, I could never live with myself, and the possibility were quite high since my father suffered from depression. All my life, I was haunted by getting a girl pregnant, which would be even worse. Luckily for me, I didn't have that many girls.
The second reason I didn't want kids was because the possibility of me ending my life was quite high, I didn't want to leave this kid without a father.
Why did you have kids?
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If I understood the reality of my struggle with depression, I would have had a more monk-like life. That was where my life was going anyway. I have always cherished my solitude. There are many important careers that make raising children all but impossible.
But I didn't know, no one around me knew, my differences we not something I would grow out of. And by many measures I was succeeding. I'm bright and learned many compensating techniques, which obscured my fundamental issues. I got on a standard, positive, hopeful career track and bludgeoned my way through. And there, in the middle of that path, was fatherhood. It's all about the same amount of pleasure and pain. If I was raised in a more open minded family things might have been very different.
I don't regret the life I've lived or the choices I've made. There's not much more to say.
But I didn't know, no one around me knew, my differences we not something I would grow out of. And by many measures I was succeeding. I'm bright and learned many compensating techniques, which obscured my fundamental issues. I got on a standard, positive, hopeful career track and bludgeoned my way through. And there, in the middle of that path, was fatherhood. It's all about the same amount of pleasure and pain. If I was raised in a more open minded family things might have been very different.
I don't regret the life I've lived or the choices I've made. There's not much more to say.
I wish I would have been able to develop compensating techniques. I always thought that if I could find a job that I liked, it would fix everything but it didn't happen. I don't know if it didn't happen because I was too depressed or if I just didn't find job that would relieve my depression, I'll never know.
A friend of mine, built a printing business from the ground up. He started when his four kids were teenagers and built his business to be the biggest of it's kind, for a while, in Canada. He was an eternal optimist. I've always wonder how come he was so optimist, his younger years were pretty tough, his father died when he was 2 and his mother never remarried.
A friend of mine, built a printing business from the ground up. He started when his four kids were teenagers and built his business to be the biggest of it's kind, for a while, in Canada. He was an eternal optimist. I've always wonder how come he was so optimist, his younger years were pretty tough, his father died when he was 2 and his mother never remarried.
Hello,
I didn't have kids.
I suffer from depression and mental illness since I'm a child. I always told to myself that I can't take care of a child the way I feel. Once, I was deeply in love and I wanted a kid. I asked my doctor about being pregnant and all the medication I take. He honestly told me that in my situation, having a kid isn't the right decision. He made me thing about it twice and then, I never had a kid.
I have 2 dogs and those are my babies. lol That how I compensate. ♥
Take care.
I didn't have kids.
I suffer from depression and mental illness since I'm a child. I always told to myself that I can't take care of a child the way I feel. Once, I was deeply in love and I wanted a kid. I asked my doctor about being pregnant and all the medication I take. He honestly told me that in my situation, having a kid isn't the right decision. He made me thing about it twice and then, I never had a kid.
I have 2 dogs and those are my babies. lol That how I compensate. ♥
Take care.
Karolanne,
If I was a woman I would definitively not get pregnant while I was on anti-depressant.
I don't know if you've seen all the adds, on TV, about lawyers suing the pharmaceutical companies, that makes all the popular anti-depressant, for children born with birth defect while her mother was on anti-depressant.
And they are all there; Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Xanax plus probably a dozen more of the most popular ones.
If I was a woman I would definitively not get pregnant while I was on anti-depressant.
I don't know if you've seen all the adds, on TV, about lawyers suing the pharmaceutical companies, that makes all the popular anti-depressant, for children born with birth defect while her mother was on anti-depressant.
And they are all there; Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Xanax plus probably a dozen more of the most popular ones.
By being successful parents, we change the world in a positive way and live on after we are gone from the earth.
In many ways, children are one way we strive for immortality. But there are many ways we can strive to change the world for ever and thus become immortal. That may also be why so many unstable people eventually become known as artists, or scientists, or politicians (or cult leaders, or tyrants, terrorists). We can still leave our mark on the world even if were not cut out to raise a family.
We could think the job makes them crazy, but I have a sense that instead it may be: crazy makes the job.
In many ways, children are one way we strive for immortality. But there are many ways we can strive to change the world for ever and thus become immortal. That may also be why so many unstable people eventually become known as artists, or scientists, or politicians (or cult leaders, or tyrants, terrorists). We can still leave our mark on the world even if were not cut out to raise a family.
We could think the job makes them crazy, but I have a sense that instead it may be: crazy makes the job.
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