Partner with depression rejecting me
Posted: Wed Apr 03, 2013 3:54 pm
Dear all,
I've been seeing my partner for just over seven months now. While we have enjoyed very good times together, I came to believe a couple of months ago that they were loosing interest in our relationship. Our conversations became less frequent and even awkward; he seemed withdrawn and despondent. I felt rejected, and told him that I didn't think our relationship would work, He responded with considerable feeling and told me that he did want me, and that he wanted our relationship to work. I was confused, but decided to carry on.
Things went downhill, though. He later lost interest in sex, and became progressively more withdrawn. When I tried to talk to him about it, he became defensive and refused to talk about his feelings in depth. He recently began taking anti-depressents, and it was then that I began to realise that my experience was basically identical with many of the posts on this and other sites.
I believe that the most likely explanation is that my partner has depression, and that things may well get worse. Understanding this helps, but I still feel rejected and extremely bitter at times. We haven't been together long, but wr formed a strong bond.
My deliberatn at the moment is whether I should get out of this before things get worse. I genuinely care for this person and I would like to have a relstionship with them, but I'm not sure if that's possible anymore.
M
I've been seeing my partner for just over seven months now. While we have enjoyed very good times together, I came to believe a couple of months ago that they were loosing interest in our relationship. Our conversations became less frequent and even awkward; he seemed withdrawn and despondent. I felt rejected, and told him that I didn't think our relationship would work, He responded with considerable feeling and told me that he did want me, and that he wanted our relationship to work. I was confused, but decided to carry on.
Things went downhill, though. He later lost interest in sex, and became progressively more withdrawn. When I tried to talk to him about it, he became defensive and refused to talk about his feelings in depth. He recently began taking anti-depressents, and it was then that I began to realise that my experience was basically identical with many of the posts on this and other sites.
I believe that the most likely explanation is that my partner has depression, and that things may well get worse. Understanding this helps, but I still feel rejected and extremely bitter at times. We haven't been together long, but wr formed a strong bond.
My deliberatn at the moment is whether I should get out of this before things get worse. I genuinely care for this person and I would like to have a relstionship with them, but I'm not sure if that's possible anymore.
M