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Why is it that no matter hard I try to not let things bother me, it is easier said than done. I can't use my strong voice like my counselor suggested, because that starts a fight or my words are not even heard. If I ignore it like others have said, I get the worthless feeling that I cant do anything wrong.

I have it at home with derogatory comments and I have it at work with my boss blaming me for just about everything that happens or doesnt happen.

Meltdown happens, depression sets in, can't deal with life. Just want to crawl into a hole.

Any suggestions???

Welcome to the forum, (((( seahawkfan ))))!
Yes, not letting things bother you is easier said than done, isn't it? I find the same thing to be very often true of myself.
For one thing I try to build my emotional and physical resilience as much as possible. Eating properly, getting enough sleep, spending time with people I'm comfortable with and make me feel good about myself, doing things that make me feel good. I find that if I'm already feeling tired, hungry or lonely things are more likely to bother me, more likely to make me feel depressed a nd hopeless. When " meltdown happens, depression sets in, can't deal with life. Just want to crawl into a hole " does happen to me, I find it very difficult to hold on to, or even imagine, that things will or can get better, that there even will be a " rest of my life. " If and when you feel as bad as I know I do sometimes, I find that it's important to hold on to a perpective that however bad I feel, it is just a moment in time. God willing, I can and will get past it, and survive it, as I have done in the past.
Also, I find that if I feel that I'm being ignored or treated unfairly, I find it easier if I can stand on " the letter of the law. " For example, if I'm making a complaint in a shop and the shop assistant is being unhelpful or indifferent, I find it easier to quote the " small print " of a guarantee document than address their unhelpfulness and indifference.
Just a few thoughts, hope they help...

seahawkfan wrote:Why is it that no matter hard I try to not let things bother me, it is easier said than done. I can't use my strong voice like my counselor suggested, because that starts a fight or my words are not even heard. If I ignore it like others have said, I get the worthless feeling that I cant do anything wrong.

I have it at home with derogatory comments and I have it at work with my boss blaming me for just about everything that happens or doesnt happen.

Meltdown happens, depression sets in, can't deal with life. Just want to crawl into a hole.

Any suggestions???

Sometimes all we have is a hole to crawl in. Most of the time. Mostly these day when I have these similar problems like you I turn to god. I know that doesn't seem helpful. I use to say "what the use, Gods not lessening". I use to think money, food, alcohol, drugs, material possessions was the answer. All those false prophets didn't work for me any more. Now I'm free from the physical world and rely more on god to get me through each moment of the day.