So I've never talked to anyone besides my family and my psychiatrist but I'm desperate and looking for anything that can help me. I am 23 years old and have "officially" been diagnosed with depression and anger management issues.
I cant remember exactly when I became the way I am now but I know its been at least 2 years if not more. At first my depression really wasnt that bad but gradually it got worse. And the more I got down the more my anger problem started coming through. I get so angry that I have lost control and attacked my boyfriend. Because of it my doctor put me on a medication to help control the problem. It helps a lot but I can still feel it trying to come through every time I get upset.
I think the worse of my depression started when I was bit by a dog in November 2008. I wasnt cosmetically damaged but I suffered trauma in my neck. I now have horrible neck problems including impingements and buldging discs. I have been suffering with the pain for over a year and just started seeing a pain management doctor last month. I am skeptical but I am out of options so I can only hope this works.
I am so tired of going to the psychiatrist and him just throwing medication at me. I dont want to have to depend on medication for the rest of my life. Plus I have been on zoloft for over a year and a half and I dont think its doing anything. I feel anxious all the time because I dont work due to my neck problem. I guess I am just looking for people who understand my frustration and will talk to me with an open mind and not be afraid to tell me the truth.
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A hug for you there, i used to deal with anger, and it sucks. What i can suggest here is that maybe you can use aromatherapy as your calming method? i like lavender and i like rose too, those too can calm me down. Maybe listen to soft/slow music when you feel angry. You can tell yourself to calm down when get angry outside, like maybe try to find a place to sit down, take a deep breath, and tell yourself to calm down or you can hum, whatever that can make your anger go away. I hope everything are looking up for you, take care of yourself and welcome to the forum
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A hug for you there, i used to deal with anger, and it sucks. What i can suggest here is that maybe you can use aromatherapy as your calming method? i like lavender and i like rose too, those too can calm me down. Maybe listen to soft/slow music when you feel angry. You can tell yourself to calm down when get angry outside, like maybe try to find a place to sit down, take a deep breath, and tell yourself to calm down or you can hum, whatever that can make your anger go away. I hope everything are looking up for you, take care of yourself and welcome to the forum
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shatteredhopes
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Welcome to the forums! I suffer physical pain too, in fact with severe knee and shin pain right now, spoiling my plans to accomplish things tonight. Chronic pain can be very depressing, and it is no wonder you have become angry, especially in what seems like unfair life circumstances.
Can you get therapy and take anger management classes?
A few suggestions, like with your boyfriend, when you get in an argument or become angry, make a pre-agreement to take a "time-out" for a few hours to calm down before you interact? Count to 10 before you respond? Practice "fair fighting techniques? Sometimes I scream in my pillow or you can hit a pillow if it helps. The main thing that helps me with anger issues is finding healthy outlets for the anger to release the negative energy...for example, I blast people on political websites in debate! At one point, I took Tai Kwon Do. Relaxation exercises and meditation or yoga and such to keep you calmer might help.
Honestly, I don't know much about anger issues except having been on the receiving end of them...until recent years, when I myself have become angered by some injustices in my life. Angry, contemptous words can be so hurtful and abusive, and I have also been physically abused, and traumatized as a result. So please seek anger counseling before it gets out of hand if there is any danger of that. I'm not judging you, its just often people who have anger issues drive away those they love the most and end up hurting others, but especially themselves in the long run. Some say depression is anger inverted inward...
Sometimes, life simply isn't fair or just. Bad things happen to good people and there is so much senseless suffering in the world. So sorry about the dog bite, that sounds awful, and I know how horrible chronic pain can be. Going for pain management sounds like a huge, positive move. That may help your depression and anger tremendously if you can better control/manage the pain...hope so anyway.
Welcome again! I have found people here very caring, and I think you will too. Wishing you light and peace in your day...
Can you get therapy and take anger management classes?
A few suggestions, like with your boyfriend, when you get in an argument or become angry, make a pre-agreement to take a "time-out" for a few hours to calm down before you interact? Count to 10 before you respond? Practice "fair fighting techniques? Sometimes I scream in my pillow or you can hit a pillow if it helps. The main thing that helps me with anger issues is finding healthy outlets for the anger to release the negative energy...for example, I blast people on political websites in debate! At one point, I took Tai Kwon Do. Relaxation exercises and meditation or yoga and such to keep you calmer might help.
Honestly, I don't know much about anger issues except having been on the receiving end of them...until recent years, when I myself have become angered by some injustices in my life. Angry, contemptous words can be so hurtful and abusive, and I have also been physically abused, and traumatized as a result. So please seek anger counseling before it gets out of hand if there is any danger of that. I'm not judging you, its just often people who have anger issues drive away those they love the most and end up hurting others, but especially themselves in the long run. Some say depression is anger inverted inward...
Sometimes, life simply isn't fair or just. Bad things happen to good people and there is so much senseless suffering in the world. So sorry about the dog bite, that sounds awful, and I know how horrible chronic pain can be. Going for pain management sounds like a huge, positive move. That may help your depression and anger tremendously if you can better control/manage the pain...hope so anyway.
Welcome again! I have found people here very caring, and I think you will too. Wishing you light and peace in your day...
Thank You fpr the positive words. I hear them all the time from my loved ones but sometimes I feel like they have to say that ya know?
As to the anger management classes. I am uncomfortable with the idea of talking about my anger in front of a class. I guess that is something I will have to work on getting over because it seems like the only other option. I am tired of hurting the ones I love with my anger and am very afraid of driving away my boyfriend whom I love very very much.
I will also try the aromatherapy because I never thought about that.
Again thatnk you for the advice. I really am positive about this forum and hopeful that it will help me regain myself.
As to the anger management classes. I am uncomfortable with the idea of talking about my anger in front of a class. I guess that is something I will have to work on getting over because it seems like the only other option. I am tired of hurting the ones I love with my anger and am very afraid of driving away my boyfriend whom I love very very much.
I will also try the aromatherapy because I never thought about that.
Again thatnk you for the advice. I really am positive about this forum and hopeful that it will help me regain myself.
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crystalgaze
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I went to the anger management classes a couple of years ago. As a matter of fact I took the class twice.
The first time I didn't go to the end of the class. It was very large and I felt that I just wan't ready to take part in anything like that. The only reason I went was because my pdoc mandated it.
Did go for the second time and followed it all the way through. I did learn some techniques that help me cope with my anger stuff.
I would probably benefit from taking the class a second time. It takes me a while to get used to people and like you said, it is hard to show your anger in front of strangers.
I think that you made a good step, in joining the forum. The nice thing about communicating online is that you can sit down at the computer at anytime of the day or night, and you are able to get your feelings out.
Not like when you are dealing with a professional and can only talk for 55 minutes, once a week and then they don't want to have much to do with you until your next session.
Hope that you do some more postings. We would all like the chance to get to know you.
The first time I didn't go to the end of the class. It was very large and I felt that I just wan't ready to take part in anything like that. The only reason I went was because my pdoc mandated it.
Did go for the second time and followed it all the way through. I did learn some techniques that help me cope with my anger stuff.
I would probably benefit from taking the class a second time. It takes me a while to get used to people and like you said, it is hard to show your anger in front of strangers.
I think that you made a good step, in joining the forum. The nice thing about communicating online is that you can sit down at the computer at anytime of the day or night, and you are able to get your feelings out.
Not like when you are dealing with a professional and can only talk for 55 minutes, once a week and then they don't want to have much to do with you until your next session.
Hope that you do some more postings. We would all like the chance to get to know you.
ladyraven,
I think that hollyann has a good idea in writing down some of your thought before your next appointment.
I know that often I get flustered when I finally get in to see someone and that notes of important things I want to mention, helps me get the max amount of help he can give.
Then I don't walk out of there kicking myself for not mentioning the stuff that I most wanted to say.
Good luck
I think that hollyann has a good idea in writing down some of your thought before your next appointment.
I know that often I get flustered when I finally get in to see someone and that notes of important things I want to mention, helps me get the max amount of help he can give.
Then I don't walk out of there kicking myself for not mentioning the stuff that I most wanted to say.
Good luck
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