I'm scared off too many things, most ridiculous....

For example: agoraphobia, claustrophobia, social phobia.

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Postby Friday13 » Wed May 06, 2009 6:12 am

cognitive behavourial therapy, i dont know much about it but its supposed to help you chance the way u think

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Postby Warmsoul/Jeanie13 » Wed May 06, 2009 7:20 am

((((((((((((((( Friday ))))))))))))))))))))

There is a chatter in the chat room that swears by CBT. Found this information for you. Hope this gives insight. Good luck with it.

Warmie/Jeanie

Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy...
is a form of psychotherapy that emphasizes the important role of thinking in how we feel and what we do.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy does not exist as a distinct therapeutic technique. The term "cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT)" is a very general term for a classification of therapies with similarities. There are several approaches to cognitive-behavioral therapy, including Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, Rational Behavior Therapy, Rational Living Therapy, Cognitive Therapy, and Dialectic Behavior Therapy.

However, most cognitive-behavioral therapies have the following characteristics:

1. CBT is based on the Cognitive Model of Emotional Response. Cognitive-behavioral therapy is based on the idea that our thoughts cause our feelings and behaviors, not external things, like people, situations, and events. The benefit of this fact is that we can change the way we think to feel / act better even if the situation does not change.

2. CBT is Briefer and Time-Limited. Cognitive-behavioral therapy is considered among the most rapid in terms of results obtained. The average number of sessions clients receive (across all types of problems and approaches to CBT) is only 16. Other forms of therapy, like psychoanalysis, can take years. What enables CBT to be briefer is its highly instructive nature and the fact that it makes use of homework assignments. CBT is time-limited in that we help clients understand at the very beginning of the therapy process that there will be a point when the formal therapy will end. The ending of the formal therapy is a decision made by the therapist and client. Therefore, CBT is not an open-ended, never-ending process.

3. A sound therapeutic relationship is necessary for effective therapy, but not the focus. Some forms of therapy assume that the main reason people get better in therapy is because of the positive relationship between the therapist and client. Cognitive-behavioral therapists believe it is important to have a good, trusting relationship, but that is not enough. CBT therapists believe that the clients change because they learn how to think differently and they act on that learning. Therefore, CBT therapists focus on teaching rational self-counseling skills.

4. CBT is a collaborative effort between the therapist and the client. Cognitive-behavioral therapists seek to learn what their clients want out of life (their goals) and then help their clients achieve those goals. The therapist's role is to listen, teach, and encourage, while the client's roles is to express concerns, learn, and implement that learning.

5. CBT is based on aspects of stoic philosophy. Not all approaches to CBT emphasize stoicism. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, Rational Behavior Therapy, and Rational Living Therapy emphasize aspects of stoicism. Beck's Cognitive Therapy is not based on stoicism.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy does not tell people how they should feel. However, most people seeking therapy do not want to feel they way they have been feeling. The approaches that emphasize stoicism teach the benefits of feeling, at worst, calm when confronted with undesirable situations. They also emphasize the fact that we have our undesirable situations whether we are upset about them or not. If we are upset about our problems, we have two problems -- the problem, and our upset about it. Most people want to have the fewest number of problems possible. So when we learn how to more calmly accept a personal problem, not only do we feel better, but we usually put ourselves in a better position to make use of our intelligence, knowledge, energy, and resources to resolve the problem.

6. CBT uses the Socratic Method. Cognitive-behavioral therapists want to gain a very good understanding of their clients' concerns. That's why they often ask questions. They also encourage their clients to ask questions of themselves, like, "How do I really know that those people are laughing at me?" "Could they be laughing about something else?"

7. CBT is structured and directive. Cognitive-behavioral therapists have a specific agenda for each session. Specific techniques/concepts are taught during each session. CBT focuses on the client's goals. We do not tell our clients what their goals "should" be, or what they "should" tolerate. We are directive in the sense that we show our clients how to think and behave in ways to obtain what they want. Therefore, CBT therapists do not tell their clients what to do -- rather, they teach their clients how to do.

8. CBT is based on an educational model. CBT is based on the scientifically supported assumption that most emotional and behavioral reactions are learned. Therefore, the goal of therapy is to help clients unlearn their unwanted reactions and to learn a new way of reacting.

Therefore, CBT has nothing to do with "just alking". People can "just talk" with anyone.

The educational emphasis of CBT has an additional benefit -- it leads to long term results. When people understand how and why they are doing well, they know what to do to continue doing well.

9. CBT theory and techniques rely on the Inductive Method. A central aspect of Rational thinking is that it is based on fact. Often, we upset ourselves about things when, in fact, the situation isn't like we think it is. If we knew that, we would not waste our time upsetting ourselves.

Therefore, the inductive method encourages us to look at our thoughts as being hypotheses or guesses that can be questioned and tested. If we find that our hypotheses are incorrect (because we have new information), then we an change our thinking to be in line with how the situation really is.

10. Homework is a central feature of CBT. If when you attempted to learn your multiplication tables you spent only one hour per week studying them, you might still be wondering what 5 X 5 equals. You very likely spent a great deal of time at home studying your multiplication tables, maybe with flashcards.

The same is the case with psychotherapy. Goal achievement (if obtained) could take a very long time if all a person were only to think about the techniques and topics taught was for one hour per week. That's why CBT therapists assign reading assignments and encourage their clients to practice the techniques learned.

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thanks

Postby Friday13 » Wed May 06, 2009 7:36 am

thanks, my issue is finding where to get it for free without my GP

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Postby Warmsoul/Jeanie13 » Wed May 06, 2009 7:44 am

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Perhaps check with your local hospital, or County Health Care (if you have that) or even check with churches.

I know one person in the chat room that could give you more insight on this is Snaglepus. He is a wonderful chatter and always willing to help anyone with this.

Just a thought.

tc

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Postby aim » Wed May 06, 2009 12:53 pm

Good Luck with it all, Friday. I'm sure with Jeanie's advice, you'll find something.

And, I can vouch for Snaglepus myself... he is a wonderfully kind man and always willing to share his knowledge and help in any way he can. He usually comes into chat daily in the evenings...

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Postby Warmsoul/Jeanie13 » Thu May 07, 2009 10:27 am

((((((((((( Amy ))))))))))))))

Thank you for that.

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Postby aim » Thu May 07, 2009 12:49 pm

YW, Jeanie. But I do only speak the truth! ;-) ((((Jeanie))))

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Postby Warmsoul/Jeanie13 » Thu May 07, 2009 2:32 pm

:oops: ty

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Postby aim » Thu May 07, 2009 8:33 pm

It's what these forums are all about and I love it!!! Helping each other the best we can and supporting each other through anything and everything.

It's easy to do with people like you on here, Jeanie - and all of you! A remarkable group of people for sure. I'm lucky to know all of you...

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Re: I'm scared off too many things, most ridiculous....

Postby Prycejosh1987 » Sun Jun 07, 2020 11:54 am

Friday13 wrote:The toilet flush
The airing cupboard
The bath plug
The gap under the bed
air vents
mirrors
the attick
the dark
warddrobes :roll:

I think you are on hyper-alert. Relax your mind, these things cannot hurt you in any way.


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