Anxiety and feeling like a terrible mother during lockdown

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Anxiety and feeling like a terrible mother during lockdown

Postby useranonymous » Mon Jul 06, 2020 1:30 pm

I have always been an extremely anxious person with a very low opinion about myself. When I had my first child in October 2018 I knew I had to try and change for the sake of my daughter, who is now 21 months old. I actually done really well putting myself out of my comfort zone by going to baby groups, soft play, swimming. I am really not a sociable person but I made myself get out there and eventually it all got a but easier even though I still get anxious now to walk into a room of people I don't know. A year ago me and my husband moved to a different area and I had to get to know this new place and try my best to meet new people, although I'm not the type to want to make friends really. So I went to groups in my new home area and met new people by putting in a brave face and pretending I was confident while facing mummy blues and hoping I was doing everything right. Then lockdown happened. Slowly and eventually I have grown as anxious and frightened to go out as I was before I had my daughter. I took her to the playground with my husband on the super Saturday, but I was anxious as hell and didn't talk to anyone but my husband and frequently do this forced smile to make it look like I was ok. I know, this sounds pathetic. I have felt like such a let down to my daughter over these weeks of lockdown. I eventually ran out of imagination and there were more days of cbeebies and scattering paper all over the floor so she could colour in. Even though I still see her smile and laugh everyday I can't help but think how bored she must be now. She has hardly seen any other children since lockdown began and I hardly know anybody here myself as lockdown stopped all the children's groups, swimming and softplay. I now feel so lonely and have cried alot from feeling like a terrible mother. I am left alone with my thoughts too much and now feel unhappy living where we have moved to. My family all live 45 minutes away. I guess at the time I thought we were making a good decision. I don't dare tell my husband I'm unhappy and lonely. He works full time and at most weekends too. I've always been used to it even when my daughter arrived as I made sure me and her were going out and socialising. I am a sad, lonely wreck now. I'm really hoping once everything is up and running like normal again I can slowly claw a little of my confidence back again. I don't want to keep feeling like I'm going to well up all the time or keep crying myself to sleep. I hope I am a good mother

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Re: Anxiety and feeling like a terrible mother during lockdown

Postby Prycejosh1987 » Tue Jul 07, 2020 11:25 am

If you do what is right you will be a good mother. A good mother doesnt just support their kids but also gives fine tuning and rebuke too. Good luck.

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Re: Anxiety and feeling like a terrible mother during lockdown

Postby useranonymous » Tue Jul 07, 2020 4:37 pm

Prycejosh1987 wrote:If you do what is right you will be a good mother. A good mother doesnt just support their kids but also gives fine tuning and rebuke too. Good luck.

Hiyah. Sorry to sound stupid but I'm a little confused as to what you mean when you say about giving fine tuning and rebuke and doing what I think is right. Sorry to sound like an idiot. Please explain, I am curious :D x

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Re: Anxiety and feeling like a terrible mother during lockdown

Postby Prycejosh1987 » Thu Aug 13, 2020 12:42 pm

useranonymous wrote:
Prycejosh1987 wrote:If you do what is right you will be a good mother. A good mother doesnt just support their kids but also gives fine tuning and rebuke too. Good luck.

Hiyah. Sorry to sound stupid but I'm a little confused as to what you mean when you say about giving fine tuning and rebuke and doing what I think is right. Sorry to sound like an idiot. Please explain, I am curious :D x

Fine tuning and rebuke is looking at how you can implement success in your children's lives through guidance, experiences and support. It something every parent should do, but many do not do. Discipline might be important too, when something is fine tuned, it comes through better hearing and refined actions. I mean take the right steps and do what is necessary too.

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