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Hopefully this is the best place to put this. I've been coming to the chat room for several months as SongOfRoses777. Here's my story.

I used to be known as foxfire77 years ago and had some other nicknames as well. I was banned (the message I got about my ban seemed to indicate that I was permanently banned) for reasons that were never fully explained to me (except it seemed to indicate that I was simply not wanted in the chat room), years ago. I definitely don't believe I did anything to deserve a permanent ban, but although I tried to file complaints to the site owners afterward, I got no answers to my questions or resolutions to my ban that I know of. However, eventually the ban was gone as I just seemed to be able to come right back into the chat room. I don't feel I've ever "ban-evaded." Although I did use the chat room a few times from library computers during my ban periods; I don't know if that counts, those were a very rare few occasions.

However, almost two years ago when I told one of the moderators that I was foxfire77, I was again banned, this time without any explanation at all. So for almost a year and a half I was banned, until suddenly this year the ban was gone, as I tried to enter the room one day and came in. Since then, I took the name SongOfRoses777 and just had a new beginning.

I've generally tried to be extremely helpful and my main reason in being here is to give support and help. I don't even engage in chit-chat in the main room very much, relatively. I often PM with people who claim to need or want one, and like I said try to be helpful and supportive. I was more immature in the old days, and engaged in some drama (although I don't know why that drama I engaged in would have resulted in me being banned from the chat forever, it never seemed fair; but even so I've been punished thoroughly by spending long periods of time banned). I love this place so much and want to be here and be supportive, and have definitely changed my ways since my younger years. I apologize if anyone who knew me then was offended or insulted by me in any way.

So my question is: is it okay that I'm here? Or if I am supposed to be banned, can I be given a chance first? I like to just be peaceful in the chat room, respect the moderators, and overall just be an asset to the room in any way I can. But I want to have integrity and make sure it's a hundred percent okay that I'm here. As stated, I don't feel I've ever "ban-evaded", and the chatroom simply let me in when I logged on. So it's possible my complaints to the owners were finally heard and I was let back in. But I want to be absolutely sure. Thank you all so much for reading. Have a good day. ~SongOfRoses777

K Roses, first off; unless you are hopping around on different machines or internet cafes your moniker won't matter. Your banned by your IP address whatever your chat room name. So if you can log in, you can assume you have been allowed to log in.

Second; I think it's good to remember that the community here is world wide, age wide, and gender wide. People are dealing with all kinds of challenges so the standard of what's appropriate is not your standard or my standard. It's a much much wider standard covering much much lower offense levels.

That is why a higher level of politeness is required and why moderators shouldn't be questioned. You get out of hand ; you get warned; you do it again; you get banned. If you didn't get a warning in the tumult of the chat room, assume you missed it. Don't ask for explanations ask for forgiveness. And try not to mention you've done nothing do deserve it. It's not your call.

I am glad you want to help. Good luck.