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Ever since I was little, people told me dream what I want and do what makes me happy. My parents never told me that..they had control over my future. My senior year of high school they told me what colleges to apply to and what major I will have.

My freshman year of college I majored in nursing because that is what my parents wanted. Though it was my first time away from home, I didn't feel free, grown up, or becoming independent like the rest of my peers where. They would always come to campus.....4 days out of 7, check my emails, tracked my down by a gps on my phone and they would go through my dorm room. Even though I was an hour away from home I still felt like I was home.

By the end of my freshman year I decided that nursing wasn't for me, it wasn't something I could see myself doing for the rest of my life. During my first year I took a class in psychology and political science. I really loved it so I decided that I wanted to double major in these fields. When I told my parents the change I made they were furious, they told me that I wont get anywhere with a degree in both, there are no jobs out there. I will end up living on the streets with no money. They said they will not support me. Hearing this hurt a lot but I had to do it.

Throughout my second year of college they did not contact me at all. I was alone, they did not want me to come home for breaks, they did not visit me on my birthday, and they did not come to see me get an award. I would just receive texts every once in awhile. I have two younger siblings one is going to school to be a video game designer and the other is going to school to be a chef. My father always brags about them, how great and successful they are going to be but he has never ever mentioned me or what I am going to school for.

My parents have made it clear to me that they will not be at my graduation and they will not support me when I return to school to go for my master's degree.They just want me to graduate and to move out of the house for good.

Now I am doubting my career choice, maybe I made the wrong decision. I have no one cheering for me on the sideline. I am doing this all on my own. Its scary and sad.

Hi..Yes it is sad your parents are not supportive, but that is there fault. Not yours..I have been lucky enough to have parents who have always supported me, even though I never followed through with anything except with raising my 2 boys as a single mom..I now am going to school to be a social worker..YOU are starting out young and with a bright future. Psychology is an awesome field and you will have plenty of job opportunities. Plus if this is what your heart is telling you to do, then do it. Only you know what it is you should be doing with your life, not your parents, whom are acting selfish. Go on with your plans. You will make friends and travel and do many things with your life and if your parents are lucky enough, they will see how mature and successful their child has become. They will probably come around one day, but for now you gotta go with your own life and not let them drag you down. Keep in touch and be cool but let them know, HEY your doing what it is you want to do..like it or not..and feel good about that! Best of luck to you!!

your parents are very selfish. they behave like teens.

you sound wiser than them. CHoose your way following your heart. Here you can read many posts where people hate works and feel depressed.

and to inspire you watch the movie Interstate 60: Episodes of The Road