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First of all, i don't really understand about people.Mainly about their behaviour like selfishness and self-centering.I have this kind of thoughs since recently.

I am currently staying in Singapore but born in Thailand.I am the eldest and have a younger sister and a youngest brother.I have been staying in here for about four years.Early of this year,i invited my brother to Singapore to work.When he arrived to here then we realised that he has girlfriend who is from other religion which our family really dislike.
We protested and tried to persuade him until he got the job and settle down.

After everything is fine to him what i shockingly realised is that he(my own brother) does not care to our family.He does not speak to me and behave that he can do whatever he wants and does not care to everybody else.There was one time that when i had flu and felt terrible and can not go out and eat,i asked him to buy some food for me as i had temperature and felt cold.What he have done is he broght his own food and said that he forgot for me.I felt terrible and sad.

It is like no ending to meeting with selfishness people.Last time i helped many time to one of my friend and part of my help he improved and recovered,but when i faced difficulties and asked for favours,he turned down my request.I felt that i was stupid enough that i helped him.

So now i conclude that it is no use to help and nice to people.Because they like to change.I am still puzzling that why people show their selfishness instead of appreciation.

Hi. I'm sorry there are bad feelings between you and your brother. Is there some way you can sit and talk to him so you can try to understand his position better and see why he is acting the way he does? It could be a form of rebellion he is going thru.

Hi Adam, i think you should try to sit n chat with ur brother or sibling more often cos when i was at early 20 , my brother n sis r not very close, we oftern urgue who should pay for this or who should do that, lots of arguement or disagreement (Still young then, full of energy to quarrel )

We get closer after marriage n have our kids. We bcome closer cos all the topic come with our little lovely kids then. He is a degree holder but married a maid which my mum was very mad with him during then.Unfortunately he was with the Lord few yrs ago...I regretted for not getting to know him better n the time spend together were too short cos after our sch day , we r all busy with our work life n frds.

Nowaday am not very close with all of my frds after all the selfishness i had encounter. I had frd came to me n ask for 1k in the morning n will pay back during the nite, I was so naive to believe him. I had another frd which really in need urgently n had lend her .After 10yrs i ask from her back cos i heard she gamble n lost few hundred to thousands. Do u know what did she ask me back :" U in need money?" What a great joke

Adam , cheers up