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When an oyster gets a bit of sand inside it's shell that irritates the tender body of the oyster. So it covers the irritant with mother of pearl and that's how a pearl is made. It's the same material it covers the inside of it's shell. Think of how rough the outside of an oyster is, and how smooth i...

What to take; what to leave. The tough decisions. Anyone have any philosophical advice as to what sort of things I shouldn't leave behind? I try to stay on my established routine but obviously things have to change. I just want to walk away (to where, to what; I don't know) but I know shouldn't. May...

Well, well, well; Gould, First, let me welcome you to the forum. And I'd like to say that exceptional people, in my experience are prone to despondence, loneliness (even in the middle of a cloying crowd), frustration. One thing I have noticed is that most of the people that find this depression foru...

Well, the first domino has fallen. I see I wrote on the 29th of Oct that my landlord said I have to go. I have to admit he's been patient and I have been lethargic. But he wrote to me yesterday to return the keys and get out ASAP. Still, no dead line but I really have to go. The last two months have...

Looks like Ieris and I were writing at the same time (Ieris you beat me). But the bit about the texts, or notes... It's not something I would have though of, perhaps a major challenge for depressed people, but talking [not nagging, or yelling, or prying] but just talking is so important. I'm so ofte...

Hi cat; I have chronic depression and my searching for answers has lead me to conclusion (there is research) that depression is a response to under lying stress. My point is, I know it's not a phase; I don't think anyone here will tell you that. Chronic stress leads to chronic depression. Now, if th...

Hi Diana; Welcome So much good advice already, but I'd like to say that in my life, complex problems like this tend to give me tunnel vision. Time can sort of halt while I struggle; and I didn't read anything in your post about the future. I mention this for two reasons. Teressa may not be ready to ...

I think that relationship issues surrounding depression are complicated and interlocking. I only have my experiences and what I've learned through observation. What I have learned is that depression and it's treatments both erode motivation. I also have observed that all the cures for rebuilding rel...

I would have thought that the way you feel must have changed with meds. I was thinking about a routine that would give you more emotional space to focus on the two of you. I think the meds are playing tricks on your body and you may be able to play tricks with your mind to regain some of what you ha...

These meds. will all affect libido. I think about it this way. The anti-depressants make things seem less important; both bad things and good things. That's the way it worked for me. However, developing more structure and discipline in my life has helped bring some joy back to the things I used to l...

I think 4Everme has made an important point. Ieris spoke about giving parts of ourselves with expectation or without (as gifts). So have I in other posts, but we can never be truly free of expectations. And the expectations we place on ourselves can be as difficult to fulfil as those we place on oth...

I feel like exploding.
Anyone feel like exploding?

Or maraschino cherries;
maybe I feel like maraschino cherries.


One or the other;



maybe both.







Or... Hey, exploding maraschino cherries!

On the other hand;
as every day, problems continue to mount, challenges, not blessing or curses;
where is the compassion when you need it?
where are the solutions?

Authority, mindfulness, concern, compassion, attention; Oh my?! That relative authority... Why does authority connote to me to me the feeling of an indistinct figure waiting in the shadows to grab me make me conform? It's not an idle question. Our minds are natural automatic problem solvers. If we d...

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This is good.
This is a good place to do this.