Boyfriend with depression - advice and experience welcome
Posted: Thu Feb 25, 2021 3:55 am
Hello all,
I'm currently in bed way past my bed time still feeling very distraught after an argument with my boyfriend. He is struggling with depression. I've been supporting him for so long and I feel like it's reached a point where I have become very unhappy. I'm so tired of being the only person in the house doing all the chores, cooking all the food and then on top of that being in charge of "being nice" to him too. I want to be supportive and give him what he needs but I just don't feel like I have the strength to do it right now. A week ago he told me he "didn't want to participate" in certain parts of our relationship. Parts that are important to me and it made it even harder to continue to run our house as if we are partners. I'm mostly writing to get this off my chest. I love him, but supporting him is difficult sometimes. There are some days that it feels like too much. I would love to know if other partners have felt the same way and what they did to help with the feeling. I go to therapy and my boyfriend goes to therapy. I want to try going together, if he's up for it. I'd love any advice or sharing of similar experience. I can't go to my friends to talk because I don't want them to think badly of my partner.
I'm currently in bed way past my bed time still feeling very distraught after an argument with my boyfriend. He is struggling with depression. I've been supporting him for so long and I feel like it's reached a point where I have become very unhappy. I'm so tired of being the only person in the house doing all the chores, cooking all the food and then on top of that being in charge of "being nice" to him too. I want to be supportive and give him what he needs but I just don't feel like I have the strength to do it right now. A week ago he told me he "didn't want to participate" in certain parts of our relationship. Parts that are important to me and it made it even harder to continue to run our house as if we are partners. I'm mostly writing to get this off my chest. I love him, but supporting him is difficult sometimes. There are some days that it feels like too much. I would love to know if other partners have felt the same way and what they did to help with the feeling. I go to therapy and my boyfriend goes to therapy. I want to try going together, if he's up for it. I'd love any advice or sharing of similar experience. I can't go to my friends to talk because I don't want them to think badly of my partner.