Best friend in a deep depression.
Posted: Tue Oct 02, 2018 7:08 pm
Let's start with me sayin that this is going to be rly long, so grab a cup of tea and make yourself comfy.
There's that guy, he's my best friend for two years now.
We've been through a lot, pretty much all of the time we've known each other we spent talking, playing games and doing random stuff that we really enjoyed.
I actually fell in love with him a while ago, but it's a different story.
The point is, he told me that he's dealing with some serious sh*t lately. He feels absolutely useless, he keeps saying that everyone would be so much happier if he'd just die already.
He has a lot of good people around him, including his girlfriend (I probably won't ever earn this status, which sucks, but well), but I can't make him see that.
His family is abusing him and he's been hurt by a lot of kids when he was younger. I found out about a few things from his friends, cause he just didn't want to tell me, so I guess there's much more going on than I think.
He somehow managed to start thinking that he doesn't need or/and deserve anyone. Every time when I say I wanna help him, that he just have to talk to me, explain me what's going on inside of his head, he's just either "I don't expect you to help me, you don't have to, these are my problems" or he's starting to be really quiet and he won't answer my questions.
Even though he didn't tell me about some stuff I know, he said that from all of people I'm the only one that knows how bad it is actually. Even his girlfriend ain't aware.
We've been arguing lately, cause he's destroying me with his rejection of my help. I'm starting to blame myself, cause I'm pushing him too hard, and I realise that, but I'm just so, so, so worried. I can't lose him, and if we won't talk about it, I'm pretty sure I will.
I won't make him go see a therapist, I won't make him talk to me or someone else. He just keeps complaining about that, like he truly needs my help. Any help.
I've cried while we talked a few times. He always says that he's so sorry, that he made me cry and he feels even worse about that. I'm always saying that it's not his fault, that I just don't know how to help him, but I think he kinda blames himself for that.
I want to help him, but I can't say when I'm crossing the line. I've repeated myself a thousand times, and he just keeps ignoring that.
I am aware that there's much, much more things that I don't know about, but I've decided to help him one way or another.
I know how bad it feels to be left behind, completely alone with your feelings, and I'm not gonna do that to him. Or to anyone else.
Please, I'm gonna appreciate every single advice, I'm totally lost, I don't know what to do.
There's that guy, he's my best friend for two years now.
We've been through a lot, pretty much all of the time we've known each other we spent talking, playing games and doing random stuff that we really enjoyed.
I actually fell in love with him a while ago, but it's a different story.
The point is, he told me that he's dealing with some serious sh*t lately. He feels absolutely useless, he keeps saying that everyone would be so much happier if he'd just die already.
He has a lot of good people around him, including his girlfriend (I probably won't ever earn this status, which sucks, but well), but I can't make him see that.
His family is abusing him and he's been hurt by a lot of kids when he was younger. I found out about a few things from his friends, cause he just didn't want to tell me, so I guess there's much more going on than I think.
He somehow managed to start thinking that he doesn't need or/and deserve anyone. Every time when I say I wanna help him, that he just have to talk to me, explain me what's going on inside of his head, he's just either "I don't expect you to help me, you don't have to, these are my problems" or he's starting to be really quiet and he won't answer my questions.
Even though he didn't tell me about some stuff I know, he said that from all of people I'm the only one that knows how bad it is actually. Even his girlfriend ain't aware.
We've been arguing lately, cause he's destroying me with his rejection of my help. I'm starting to blame myself, cause I'm pushing him too hard, and I realise that, but I'm just so, so, so worried. I can't lose him, and if we won't talk about it, I'm pretty sure I will.
I won't make him go see a therapist, I won't make him talk to me or someone else. He just keeps complaining about that, like he truly needs my help. Any help.
I've cried while we talked a few times. He always says that he's so sorry, that he made me cry and he feels even worse about that. I'm always saying that it's not his fault, that I just don't know how to help him, but I think he kinda blames himself for that.
I want to help him, but I can't say when I'm crossing the line. I've repeated myself a thousand times, and he just keeps ignoring that.
I am aware that there's much, much more things that I don't know about, but I've decided to help him one way or another.
I know how bad it feels to be left behind, completely alone with your feelings, and I'm not gonna do that to him. Or to anyone else.
Please, I'm gonna appreciate every single advice, I'm totally lost, I don't know what to do.