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Hi everyone, I'm 63 and going through a really rough patch. Recently I've had 4 friends pass away within 6 mo. A bad break up from who I thought was the love of my life.Just discovered he's begun dating someone. I'm currently taking medication and see a counselor that have been helping. At this point it isn't and I can't fathom why I'm here. I have no children, no close relationship with family. The only thing keeping me here is my two dogs. I do have a lot of loving and caring friends but I mask my true feelings very well. I'm hoping that reaching out and communicating with this it will help. I don't feel that I have anything left to look forward to.

I understand where you are coming from - sort of. I'm married, with emphysema/COPD and about a third of normal lung function on a really good day. I had shoulder surgery in January, but she wants things done immediately no time to wait, and plan. Now my shoulder is permanently messed up because I couldn't heal first. Sometimes, talking like this is the only respite. Talk to your provider, and keep talking here, for support, and often, comfort - just knowing you aren't the only one.

Thank you very much for the suggestions and advice.

Moira, you are not alone. I don't have any family either but only have my dog. Yet I take so much joy from him and making his life great. In fact I went through training with him and now he is a registered therapy dog so we can spend our time providing therapy to others at convalescent homes, schools, and other events. You would not believe how this has helped me just to see how he makes other people smile. The stress just melts off people when they pet him and I've gotten so much out of it. He does all the work and I just show up with him. That said, it's evident you are going through a rough patch. It's important that you acknowledge this and that your pain is real and matters. Journaling has been really helpful for me as I can read back through things I wrote and see my own growth. I pray you find peace and comfort at this stage in your life.

Dear Moira, I’m truly sorry for what you are going through. It sounds that you have been through a lot recently. It is understandable the way that you feel for the loss of your relationship and friends. There are no words that can ease the pain and sorrow, however I encourage you to save all the wonderful memories that you have with them and death does not limit you to continue loving them. You do have a purpose in life. Even in the darkest moments in our lives there’s always hope. Please, let me tell you that you are not alone. Things happen for a reason. It is a hard situation that you are living now, but do not feel discourage. Hang in there!! Please do not give up! I’m glad to know that you are currently seeing a counselor. Have you considered or thought Christian counseling as an alternative? Christian counseling can be helpful through things like this. You are valuable and worth fighting for. If you want to speak further I will be here for you. Do you have a faith or believe system to help guide you through this? I do not know whether if you believe in God but I will keep you in my prayers, my friend. Sending you many hugs– keep us posted, OK?